Its seems as though behind the EBT and double lamented race card in every “ig’nant” nigga’s black man’s wallet a “but I grew up without a father” card is kept in reserve. To that I say whatever the fuck…I’m sick of black men clinging to this tired excuse every time they abandon a child, commit a crime, join a gang, or engage in other random acts of niggerdom. Granted there are many disadvantages that come with growing up in a single parent home but that doesn’t excuse being an immoral under achiever. Being the product of a single parent home, I feel as though I’m qualified to commentate on this matter. My parents divorced for numerous reasons when I was only three years old and my Mother did everything in her power to raise my sister and I. My father was never really a stable part of my life, he made sporadic appearances here and there.
My Mother took on the role of father, as the authoritarian figure, while my grandmother showed me love and motherly affection. Through out my 22 years I’ve come into contact with many positive influences (male and female alike) through church, sports, school, and extended family. Their love, support, and guidance have allowed my sister, who is an attorney, and myself, a college student, to be in the position we’re in today. As a child I spent many days hurt, longing for my fathers presence while he was roaming the streets engaged in all kinds of skullduggery. My Father was many things an adulterer, liar, addict, abusive husband, unaccountable and so on. It wasn’t until my teenage years that I came to the realization, that “my father ain’t shit”. At 22 years old I realize my life would've probably been worse with him around. Dad for your absence all I can say is thank you. Through your absence I've learned numerous lessons, you're everything I don’t want to be as a man. Young men have to realize that if our fathers didn’t have the decency to hang around and guide us into adulthood they probably weren’t shit to begin with. Take solace in the fact that you have mothers, brothers, sisters, grandparents, mentors, coaches, teachers, etc who’ve had a positive influence on your life instead of dwelling on a single person’s absence. Although it's tough at times plenty of males have made it without fathers, Shawn “Jay Z” Carter, Sean (whatever he’s calling himself this week) Combs, John Lennon, Lance Armstrong, President Barack Obama, shit even Simba made it through his struggle ( dude was mentored by a meerkat and a pig).
"The hell you complaining about B, I watched my pops get stomped to death by a pack of wildebeests and I still made it..."
None of these males let the absence/lose of their father deter them from ultimately accomplishing their dreams. If anything they’ve used their fathers negligence/absence as the spark to ignite their determination at some point in their lives. Instead niggas brothers will use their father’s absence as an excuse to negate everything they were taught from those who invested time in their lives to act like the very man that abandoned them to begin with. Niggas Misguided brothers use their father’s absence as an excuse to be unaccountable for their actions. Not finding a job, abandoning your child, or getting locked up has nothing to with your father’s lack of support. Let’s face it the world is a cold place and everyone is going through their own struggle. No cares about your problems why because they’re your problems. So you can sit around cry about being a fatherless,poor, black man or vow to yourself to be twice the man your father is/was and get up, get out and, get something.
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